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Original Article

How to Use Your Mouth (to Talk About Sex)
by Tristan Taormino

Tristan Taormino is the author of several sensationally sexy and informative books including Down and Dirty Sex Secrets, Pucker Up: A Hands-on Guide to Ecstatic Sex, and The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women. Tristan tours the country touting the wonders of anal sex and the overall goodness of sex in all its frisky forms. News flash: This month, Tristan celebrates the release of Tristan Taormino's House of Ass, with a DVD party in New York City featuring the DVD's punk-wild star child Joanna Angel (check out Joanna's site, too www.burningangel.com). For details, visit Tri

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Harrell01 47 M
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Very GOOD, Everyone needs to be able to talk about sex and
what they like and dislike about it.

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I agree that open and honest communication about intimate
matters is very important.


Sometimes a little action can spur things along. I was with
a lady and we had talked about anal sex and she said that it
might be a possibility once she trusted me but that she had
never had it with any previous partners. The first time
we were intimate, I thought I would explore her anal area
with my finger. I was fully prepared to stop if she objected
but she did not. I expected to tease her anus with my finger
but did not expect to penetrate it because my finger was
not lubed. To my surprise, and I would assume hers, my finger
slid in easily without lube--so much so that I inserted
a second finger. I was doing this while performing cunnilingus
and massaging her g-spot with my other hand. Afterward,
we discussed it and she told me that she never realized anal
penetration could be so enjoyable. It opened up the discussion
and subsequent activities.

stalion679 40 M
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the article hit some points which is vital to todays life.

stalion679 40 M
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the article hit some points which is vital to todays life.

cumagain30 59 C
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good article...i really liked it...

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Being communicative is totally essential to having continuing
great sex.

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great article

tinytatoos 58 C
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the talk isn't the problem with us it's the two
fingers. we're working toward it and she cums hard
but its taking longer than i would like.we'll get there
though. hopefully.

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OMG Guys...Girls: I heard Tristan's interview on
Maxim Radio VIA Sirius. She may be the most intelligant
woman I have ever listened to. I believe it is possible she
is the smartest woman on the planet. Rea her, listen to her,
study her...know her! Word UP!

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GReat article! Like the way you write :)

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nice article

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good reading

mikaharo 73 M
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Too many people are afraid of admitting they want to try
ALL of that which is Taboo. Being up front is important to
communication. Being upfront doesn't have to be "Iwanna
fuck your ass". any way that is not my idea of communication.
thanks for a good read.

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Very good article.Really it is very important to partners
not to be ashamed of expressing their wishes and discuss
their fantazies.Otherwise without trust and with issues"this
is dirty" sex is going to lose its joy.

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Great article!

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This is a hot topic.. I can see that.. Hey where can I get a
Jake? Does anyone know..lol. hee hee..


M

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Communication is best

haviddook 51 M
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I don't see what the problem is. When done right, I have
never heard a woman who didn't think orgasms during
anal were the most intense they have ever had. You just have
to do it right. Lube, warm up...and WOW they will like it.

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great article.... communication is the key to a great relationship
in all areas!

dead_sexy69 124 M
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great article

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great article

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I can not believe the topic was perfectly wriiten about.
Here is one person who knows her shit!!! Now, is she available?
lol! it was a turn on to read such profound words of wisdom.

lund0069 54 M
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communication is the key....two-wy road i might add.
great read...enjoyed the articel. thank u

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talking about sex with your partner can make everything
that much better

ladyluuvva 48 M
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u speak the truth. great artical

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Very nice article...

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I agree , it is a nice article , I enjoy reading it , an that
for me is dificult.

24134steve 62 M
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great article

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really interesting, but maybe a lil too long

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I want to meet you once.

KandieBoy 37 M
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Really interesting, I don't want no boring sex life.
Also you can see that guys junk through his pants

dhandle007 49 M
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I love to hear more about this

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Good article. Communication is always the key. Just need
to find some ladies who want to communicate.

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That was a good article. It does make sense and that couples
should talk about sex. What they like and dislike.

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people are communicating their bloody asses off here...but
sex...dont know...there doesnt seem to be a whole lotta
that happening...

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I don't think I could ever be with someone who wasn't
adventurous or didn't have fantasies.

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Very interesting article, very previlent in today's
society.

saifcute2 39 M
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tell me that can girls also ejaculats like boys and during
fucking when a guy inserts his penis in her vagina she feels
pain or enjoy can girls also get sexual climax

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great article, I like it.

SuckMe2K 43 M
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i love it when a girl talks dirty

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good article enjoyed it.

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very interesting got more

Pokemyobut 65 M
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very well written. bravo !

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The KEY to any realationship is communication..If you
don't talk about likes and dislikes and don't
establish TRUST.. you'll never know what is what..




Prospector

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A very good article.

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thought provoking article ..maybe i didnt waste all the
time here....

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Very informative for both men and women.
Communication is everything..........

idoc2009 43 M
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interesting article...

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not bad.but a little long.

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Like everybody said, kind of long but very informative.......[COLOR
blue]

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i def agree that being able to talk about sex and having trust
in a relationship is very very improtant......i has taken
awhile in most of my relastionships for my girl to even think
about having aal sex..... even then she is questionablr
about it... but def after alittle time.... they warm up
to the idea... cause its intruging....


this has been just from my experiences

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Really nice article.Being able to express your thoughts
with your partner is very important iin maintaining a fresh
and comfotable intimate setting.

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the more we communicate the bettter, especially our touges

cabrah 47 C
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communication is the key. I think it is important to tell
your partner what you want, and what you want may change
so tell them often. I learned this the hard way.

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Awesome! The Queen of Anal, as always, has it right.

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well i thought it was a good story i feel you should be able
to talk about anything with your partner

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It was an ok artical it realy was i must say.

mia1199 47 F
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I could use a Jake...


--Mia

hvylifter2 48 M
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I liked the article. Any relationship is based on communication
and keeping things new and exciting.

Fort3471 52 M
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It takes awhile to build trust to communicate to your partner
what you want.

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Excellent article. Scott's assumption that women
from conservative backgrounds may be less open-minded
but as Tristan says the way you approach talking about sex
makes a big difference. I was brought up in a strict catholic
environment (Yes I was a catholic schoolgirl, uniform
and all). Initially I was very hesitant to consider new
things or even talk about them. Patience and tact on a mans
part can break down all of those barriers. Now we can talk
freely about anything.

Angel

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communication is really the key when it comes to any aspect
of life beween yourself and another person.

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very good article... trust is important

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I've noticed a lot of people assume this is about getting
comfortable with anal... that was an example, not the point
of the article. communication of desires and fantasies
of all sorts can lead to the same results. you should be discussing
everything you need from your partner, not just, "Hey,
what are your thoughts on anal..."

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excellent article, great reading

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I totally agree. Communication is the key to make any relationship
work. Without it we may as well all be strangers.

rabbid2006 55 M
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nice article

spreadwyde 54 M
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I ask you, is there anything that this woman does not know?
We are Sooooo not worthy.

Denieme 37 F
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A genius in her own sense, I love these articles.

diverunner 62 M
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Good article. Communication is the biggest thing

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any two idiots can fuck. a lil communication goe sa long
way in making for incredible hot times

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any two idiots can fuck. its the communication that takes
things up a notch and really opens the door to wild exploration
and sexual growth

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Good Article!! You cant get what u really want unless you
speak up. Being open is the key.

sjav28 74 F
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great article

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I'm a very adventerous person when it comes to sex and
I need my partner to feel the same way. Without the ability
to talk about your fantasies I think anybodies sex life
would become dull.

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This artical really helped after reading it i decided to
give it a try and to my surprise my girlfriend actually agreed.

JayC93 43 M
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fantastic article, really enjoyed it!!!

rm_ocee4u 40 M
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The article was
quite interestin and informative..i agree wit a lot of
the ideas put forward there and agree that communication
is key for any relationship to be mutually satisfying..

rm_ocee4u 40 M
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i totally agree wit the article

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Communication is key for any kind of relationship well
written.

stroke_u02 37 M
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this article was really good, it is healthy in a to freely
talk about sex without feeling award.

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Excellent article... I have to agree with what everyone
has said, communication is key. Period.

ladyluuvva 48 M
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communication + trust = great sex. very well written

duked42 43 M
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This artical really helped after reading it i decided to
give it a try and to my surprise my girlfriend actually agreed.

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Fantastic article, well thought out and intelligent in
advice. Considerate communication, we need this in more
than just our sex lives.

rm_jmwilen 40 C
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You are less likely to recieve if you don't ask.

Rican5353 38 F
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definately very informative...i
think a lot of times it's hard to speak up to your partner
about something you want..this was a very helpful article
:)

Boo045 64 F
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Tristan scores again!


A really good article. I was raised in a very conservative
environment and married as a very young virgin. My husband
never discussed sex with me (nor wanted me to discuss it)
so the vanilla sex we had was what I believed to be the way
it was. I have to admit that I truly believed that female
orgasms were made up by people like Cosmopolitan to sell
magazines.


After that relationship crashed and burned, my next partner
was very experienced and encouraged me to communicate.
I completely grossed out at the possibility of anal sex.


He bought me Tristan's book, encouraged me to read
it and discuss anything that I wanted to. He was kind, incredibly
patient, and we learned to have wonderful anal sex together.
I also found out that not only could women have orgasms,
they could ejaculate! Who knew?


Thanks for these thought provoking articles - mayble they
will help couples to communicate better - it's the
key to not only a successful sex life but also a sucessful
relationship.

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Thats all true in this article.

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Very good. it is important to express your wants and desires.
The artical speaks the truth

rm_Aduso 52 M
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Quand la cum munication passe, tout passe, dans le respect
de tout à chacun...

alan50005 74 M
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well..sex without communication in all areas is likely
to be a failure....openness is a good thing..!

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could'nt have said it better, way to get the point across!!

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I found it very helpful, too many issues arise from a lack
of communication, whether it is regarding sex or other
aspects.

Maaku2006 48 M
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Very interesting article!

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Very good article!! Thanks!

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I think it's nice.

rm_gmantra 55 C
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Thanks for the great article Tristian.. I really love reading
all your stuff. You are right on and what you say is very helpful..
Thanks so much, keep up the great work

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Now if I could just get a friend to be more open with my husband...We
have Bi 3somes with him alot but he won't alk about anything
and seems to avoid the subject of 1 on 1 with my husband even
though he really digs it whenits all 3 of us...blah

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My girl and me are very honest and open with each other.When
we first started dating we were partying one night and went
on this web site.She told me about her wild sex she had when
she was younger.Shes had MMF, shes been with another woman.I
told her I fantasize about mmf.She is cool about it.If your
with the right person they will want to experience your
desires with you.

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it was very good

leeandrin 47 F
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Bravo! Great article

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With the comments I have received abouyt my voice, this
article should prove beneficial.

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I also have to agree, great article. I am at a point in my life
where I want to try new things and experience all that I can.
My story is similar to the one in your article, I had a bad
anal experience once and have been very reluctant to try
again. Your article gives me hope!

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I'm feelin' that...I think that everyone should
be able to talk about sex...the only reason peolpe have
unsatisfying sex is because they are not vocal and express
to their partner what feels good to them and what doesn't...c'mon
people we not mind readers....LOL

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Loved the artical!!!! Communacation is very important....and
listening to your partner especially when trying somthing
new is a must!!! They have to trust that you will do only what
they are comfortable with...and stop if they ask..with
no hard feelings or anger expressed!!! If you take things
slow so they are comfortable enough to relax and enjoy the
experience..and see that you are recieving pleasure too
it makes the experience even better!!!

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Very good article. Communication is very important when
it comes to sex.

rm_aeamp 41 M
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nice article...awsome tit pic in the middle!

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very good reading, but myself, less in talking and more
between the legs busy, while having sex,

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Yes, a good article, we all need to learn to open up more

biggrizza 43 M
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Wonderful article

coldinil 52 M
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Communication is key to a healthy sex life. Both verbal
and physical communication! Good read

Xanadu352 41 F
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Very good!

Xanadu352 41 F
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Sexy article!!!

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Good information. Men tend to shy away from discussion
or are a bit verbally challenged when it comes to expressing
their desires. It just comes out, "let me fuck your.."
or something along those lines. That can be a real deal breaker
as opposed to finding a more tactfull, kind way towards
different activity.

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Being open with your partner
about what you want is the only way to go. I am certainly glad
that I shared my fantasy of bringing another woman home
with my husband. We have had A LOT of fun since then! :D

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